June 19, 2019

The Right Direction: How To Get Back In Touch With Who You Are

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Hey guys and welcome back to another post and yes, I know what you’re thinking – Another post this close together, who is this girl? But with the weather taking a turn for the worse, and happily sticking up its middle finger as it rains and pours. I thought we could maybe expand and, include a part 2 to our previous session where we spoke about our inner truths and also tried focussing on not forgetting who we are as individuals in our quest to ‘soul-search’ if you will.

We all have moments in life where we feel we’ve lost touch with something. And maybe it’s not about the fact that you’re just feeling a bit “meh” but it’s something that’s been going on for some time. We can find ourselves struggling with our identity, either because we’ve been in a relationship that has made us give up who we are to an extent. Or it could be we have just been swept along by the tide of life, and realise that we’ve lost sight of the things that are important. When we hit these moments of crisis, we’ve got to find a way to get back in touch with who we are.

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But what are the best ways to do this?

Embrace A Learning Mindset

Once we realise that we’re uninspired, or we’ve gone off the beaten track, learning more about the world we live in is a great way to get some inspiration. It doesn’t have to be learning in a traditional sense, as learning is the art of achieving a new perspective on an event. There’s no point in learning things just for the sake of it, but rather, figure out what you feel you’ve been missing out on, and go for this. You don’t have to hit a textbook or join a class; you could go and see the world. What’s more, you can do it with a bit of style.

If you feel you just need to get away from everything you know, you could join the Bolsover Cruise Club and see the world in a comfortable way. Travelling by yourself is one of those great approaches to life that makes you reevaluate what is important to you, but also gives you the opportunity to function under your own steam. It is far from boring! And what’s more, you will learn something new about yourself.

Look At What Is Important And Embrace This

In life, if we feel we’ve had an upbringing that wasn’t true to who we are, we can spend the vast majority of our life trying to escape it. After all, many people grow up and move on, and they don’t want to be cuckolded as the type of person they were. When we do this, we could inevitably escape the things that we hold important in our life. Sometimes the answer is simple, it’s about family and old friends. But when we move to a new place, start a new job, or start a new life, we think these things replace our old ways of “being.” In fact, this change in life can be a good thing, but if we’ve lost sight of who we are in the meantime, life finds a way of putting us back. It can draw us home.

And sometimes, when we see the family Christmas, but we don’t see them as much as we used to, that feeling of contentment can make us realise what is important in life. It’s not about that great job, or about having a wide social circle, it’s about the simple things that make you feel content on the inside.

Get Rid Of The Toxic People

It comes to a point where you feel that when you sit down with a friend and ask them how they are, and they spend what seems like hours talking about themselves, without giving as much thought to how you are, these one-sided relationships can seem pointless. But you go back to them because you feel that as you’ve known them for a long time, and that this is worth more than your own thoughts and feelings on the situation because you’ve got a history. Toxic people aren’t just selfish; they are also people that don’t want you to enjoy good news. They’ll find a way to twist the knife in somehow. And we can be the bigger person and let this wash over us, but if this desire to bring us down becomes a habit that they just can’t get out of, do we really need this in our lives?

Getting rid of those naysayers can leave you free to live the life that you want. Your time is precious, and if you spend your social time with people that are trying to bring you down in one way or another, it’s your decision as to whether they should even be in your life.

Take Care Of Yourself

We live lives where we have to give so much of ourselves to everyone else. It can feel like we’ve lost track of who we are because we don’t know the things that can support us. These days, self-care is even more important. But instead of sitting down and thinking about what we need to do to look after ourselves, we go through social media, or we think that we should be doing something because those quiet moments in life are seemingly a waste of time. Taking care of yourself isn’t about meditation per se, but it’s about the aspects of life that you know will benefit you in mind, body, and spirit. It doesn’t have to be a major thing; it can be a drink with a good friend that gives you the opportunity to reevaluate the things that are important.

On the other hand, it could be going to the gym a little bit more. And with health clubs like PureGym providing cheap memberships, it’s a very simple way to make your body a bit more of a temple. You know what you need to do to look after yourself, so don’t delay the inevitable. It’s all about trusting your instincts and listening to your body. It’s simple; if you feel tired, there’s something untoward in your mind or body.


If we don’t know who we are anymore, then we have to take the appropriate steps to eliminate the aspects of life that are taking us off course. This can be quite an effort, but if we are to ascertain the major issues and get back to basics, we’ve got to go through the difficult things. It could be getting rid of people that aren’t good for us, or escaping life for a bit, or just fuelling our minds all over again. Getting back in touch with who we are gives us rejuvenation, but also puts us back in the right direction.

As always, if you need someone to talk to or a virtual shoulder then I’ll be in my little talking box below. You’re not alone in this!

*This is a contributed Post*

2 responses to “The Right Direction: How To Get Back In Touch With Who You Are”

  1. Ellen says:

    Taking care of yourself is so important! I really liked reading this post!

  2. Love this post 💝 being ill the last year has truly shown me what and who is important and it’s so true that stressing over the people and things that aren’t can really get you down! X

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